Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
Our words can be dangerous weapons, and our words always reveal what is in our hearts. It should be the goal of the Christ to honor God with his speech.
Unwholesome or corrupting words include harmful, damaging, negative speech of any kind. Unwholesome talk fractures the unity of the church and it compromises our Christian witness. IT IS THE OLD MAN SPEAKING. SILENCE HIM. The old man cannot help but speak out of the overflow of his fallen heart, but the new man can. We can stop using words as weapons.
The New Man Speaks with four filters in place. 1) What you say must be true, but you do not have to say everything that is true. 2) Your speech must be good, beneficial to the hearer. When you speak the focus is on the other not on yourself. They are the center of your attention. To speak to their needs you must know their needs. You must listen. We have two ears, and one mouth, so listen twice as much as you speak. Listening well, leads to speaking well. 3) Our worlds must fit the occasion or be appropriate. We can speak a word in season to him that is weary. (Isaiah 50:4) 4) Our speech should minister grace to those who hear. (Colossians 4:6)
Why we silence the old man and his unwholesome talk and put on the new man’s grace-ministering words? We do not want to grieve the Holy Spirit. He is a person, not merely an impersonal power, and He can be grieved.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. What is in your heart? Your words are a window into your soul - and you do not have curtains or shades. What is in your heart is made obvious by your words. What can change the heart? Not you. But God can. Ask him. There is grace for that. There is forgiveness for that. There is mercy for you in Jesus Christ. Ask him.